Wednesday, May 28, 2008

At the Ceremony..

Ashu had an award ceremony 5 days ago. This is first time for him to recieve anything like that. well, I take that back, he did get a medal when he went to the Little Gym. Anyways, back to the topic of the cermony.... I got him all excited about the award ceremony since I had no idea if he would want to go up on the stage and recieve the award in proper manner. All he wanted to know was if he can break into dance or song when he gets on to the stage.!!!! Am like, NO... YOu don't do that, you have to go and get the certificate, shake hands and say thank you. He was like, that is boring.!!! I said, No, it's gonna be fun, all your friends gonna be there and everyone is going to get an award for all their hard work.

Atlast the day arrived, rather the evening. It was "supposed" to start on the dot at 5:00PM, so I hurried from work to pick Ashu and then hurried to be there at the ceremony by 4:50PM. Whew, ! am on time I thought, ... got him in hurriedely.., only to find, 2 families in the whole auditorium, and ofcourse (luckily.!! ) the centre's owner who is an Indian and her whole family was there.! So I tried entertaining my little one for almost an hour, showing all the awards lined up on the stage & telling that he is gonna get one of those. Then the program began with many kids doing the talent show.! {Hey, no one told me about this. There was no mention of show in the invitation,... My poor baby wanted to show off his talents soo much.!! }

Then the moment came, since his name tag had number 1 written, I thought may be he is going first.! And I prepped him again, saying that he might be going first, so he has to do it right. Ofcourse, they did call him first, he walked to the side and walked in a marching style and went and stood right next to the announcer & heard everything that they were telling about him, giving biggest grin and smiling at everyone. Then they put a medal on him for being ahead in maths and a recognition certificate. He was sooo proud of himself and came down with them to show them off to me..

Then there was his friend sitting next to us and he went up to get his,... He got another award for completing a year. And when he came back, everything changed for my A.! He started looking at his trophy, ... and was all questions in curiousness in his eyes. I wasn't sure what they both were talking, but my heart sank, thinking that he might be asking why he did not get that trophy. The more I sat there looking at him, the more I thought of did I do the right thing by telling him that everyone is going to get the same awards and will he be upset for not getting the "other" trophies... Then he came up to me and sat with me for a while. Looking at his medal, he said, why did I get this Mamma. I said, coz you are doing good in Maths. He was like, I do good in reading too Mamma. I said, I know.. That is why he got the certificate. He turned towards me and gave the biggest smile, said, I like that.

That is when I knew, he was happy with what he got. Simple and content.... & putting all my thoughts & doubts to rest.. Here's to my boy who stumps me everyday. Here's my inspiration...

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Family name...

It is a known fact in Indian community that girl child is most unwanted and all of them desire to have atleast ONE boy in the family. This CHOSEN one is "supposed" to carry on the name of the family. Girls, well, they are married off and they enrich someone else's world.. So why have one right?..
Over the weekend I was talking to my friends abt the same thing and I started to tell my opinion about it and they all said, it was an interesting point of view. So I thought I should share it on my blog.. :o)..

When a girl gets married into household, when they make a family, they tend to follow what the girl has learnt over the years from their mom. When it is a joint family it might be little different. But in today's nuclear families, all traditions that this little family would follow will be exactly like what the wife knows. And NOT what husband knows. (well, you try asking them and they would shrug, well, you do what you want to do.. I don't know how it's done.. ).. Doesn't have to be just festivals or traditions... in almost everything, all little aspects of life, all values that you learnt from the parents,.... female of the house is the one who passes them on,.. to their daughters and the saga continues...

Wish everyone would see this and stop the pathetic state of wanting & wishing to have only boy child and go to the extremes to make this happen.. A child is a child, boy or a girl.... Think you are the blessed one if you are atleast be able to have One... and a healthy & happy child.. The bundle of joy who would bring all the love that you couldn't have imagined...

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Happy Mother's Day..

It's mother's day today and am sitting here, typing this blog with my little one on my lap. He came today and told me Happy Mother's day, when I was wishing my Mom over the phone.. I thought it was really cute, coz he had no idea what exactly it was. He thinks it's just like Birthday's ... Anything you wish with happy at the beginning, it's Birthday for him!.. And ofcourse he asked me million dollor question 10 minutes ago... "Why do you love me so much Mamma?".. Awwwwww.... Do I really have an answer for that.!! Does anyone has one, (Pls share it with me if you do.!!!)..

I always thought this Mother's day, Father's day etc were made up by the card companies,.. I might be wrong,.. why did they just pick one day?? Rn't we glad to have good parents everyday in our lives? I know I do.. always thank God for having me given such cultered and good parents who sacrifised their happiness most of the time to see us happy.! Donno how they did it, but they instilled knowledge in us to know the Good vs Bad and Right Vs wrong. I always wonder and hope that I could be a parent like they are ... Wish me Best..!!!

Anyways, coming back to my little ones question...... I couldn't answer him.. I just know, I love him, love him more than ANYTHING in the world. Told him I LOVE him, a LOT... for the little things that he does for me, for the things that says to me, , for who he is........ When you talk abt that unconditional love from Mom, that's what they say I think. !!!. For all reason and for all seasons love them for what they are.., and they love you back unconditionally.!!

Have fun always, find the humor when you are in hurry to leave for work and your kid wants to wear a pajama to the school,... wkdays tough to get them out of bed & wkends they are the one to get up first,.... enjoy the ride with them back from school, or a short walk to a friends house, or trip to the zoo (even if it is your 7 time in the same summer)... enjoy what you both like to do... together, cherish the moments... So here's to all the Mom's..
Enjoy your day!!